What is therapy with me like?
Therapy with me isn’t about being told what’s wrong with you or being given quick-fix advice. It’s about having the space to properly understand yourself—often in ways you haven’t had the chance to before.
Many people come to therapy without a clear explanation as to why. It’s often more of a feeling—like something isn’t quite right or hasn’t been for a while. You might feel overwhelmed, stuck in patterns you can’t shift, or just tired of holding everything together.
That’s more than enough to begin.
A Space That Feels Safe Enough to Be Yourself
One of the most important parts of therapy is having a space where you can be more like yourself—without feeling judged, analysed, or expected to have it all figured out.
From the beginning, my focus is on helping you feel:
- Heard
- Understood
- Not judged
- Not rushed to open up before you’re ready
We go at your pace. There’s no pressure to share everything straight away—feeling safe comes first, and we build from there.
A lot of the people I work with are used to coping well on the outside, even when things feel very different underneath. Therapy with me gives you somewhere to put down that mask.
How I Work: Making Sense of Patterns
My core training is in Transactional Analysis (TA), but I work integratively—so therapy is shaped around you, rather than you having to fit a particular model.
Together, we start to look at patterns. For example:
- Why certain situations trigger strong emotional reactions
- Why you might find yourself repeating the same dynamics in relationships
- The different “parts” of you that seem to pull in different directions
- How earlier experiences may still be influencing how things feel now
Often, the ways you’ve learned to cope made a lot of sense at the time. Over time though, they can start to become outdated, and feel limiting, frustrating, or exhausting. Therapy isn’t about getting rid of parts of you—it’s about understanding them, so things can begin to shift more naturally.
Not Just Talking
Talking is an important part of therapy, but it’s not the only way we can work. Where it feels helpful, I also use more creative approaches. This can be useful if:
- You find it hard to put things into words
- Your experiences feel more emotional or physical than logical
- Talking alone doesn’t quite get to what’s underneath
Sometimes a different approach can open things up in a way that conversation on its own can’t.
Issues I Work With
I work with adults across a range of different experiences. You don’t need to fit neatly into a category to come to therapy.
Some of the areas I commonly support with include:
Emotional & Mental Health:
- Anxiety and overthinking
- Low mood or depression
- Stress and burnout
- Feeling overwhelmed or shut down
Relationships:
- Difficulties in relationships
- Repeating patterns with others
- Trust issues, affairs, or betrayal
- Feeling disconnected or alone
Sense of Self:
- Low self-esteem or confidence
- Perfectionism or self-criticism
- Feeling stuck or lacking direction
- Questions around identity
Past Experiences:
- Trauma and difficult life events
- Abuse (past or present)
- Bereavement or loss
- Significant life changes
Complexity & Neurodiversity:
- ADHD and neurodiversity
- OCD and intrusive thoughts
- Emotional regulation difficulties
- Personality patterns
Therapy That Works With You
A common worry is that therapy might feel overwhelming, or like it will open things up too quickly. I’m always mindful of that.
We work in a way that is:
- Paced – we don’t go further than feels manageable
- Collaborative – we think things through together
- Grounded – not just understanding, but helping things feel different day to day
Building stability is just as important as exploring things more deeply.
Short-Term or Longer-Term Work
Some people come with something specific they want support with. Others are looking for a deeper understanding of themselves and more lasting change. Both are welcome here.
We’ll check in as we go, so the work stays useful and feels right for you.
Taking the First Step
Reaching out for therapy can feel like a big step—especially if you’re used to managing things on your own.
If you’re thinking about starting, I offer a free 20-minute initial call. It’s a chance to talk things through, ask any questions, and get a feel for whether working together feels like a good fit.
There’s no pressure—just a starting point.